It is common to have disturbing dreams for some period afterwards; or not be able to dream about the husband (or wife) at all; or to see the partner in the distance but not get near. In accepting the death, meeting any feelings of loss, grief, anger and continuing love, the dream may become as below.
The example both shows the resolution of the loss, but also the paradox felt at realising the meeting was an inner reality. Example: ‘A couple of months ago as I was waking I felt my husband’s arm across me and most realistically experienced my hand wrapping around his arm and turning towards him (which I had done so often in his lifetime) and saying “1 thought you had died. Thank God you have not.” Then I awoke alone and terribly shaken’ (Mrs I).
A critic might say this is only a dream in which a lonely woman is replaying memories of her dead husband’s presence for her own comfort—thus her disappointment on being disillusioned. Whatever our opinion, the woman has within her such memories to replay. These are reality.
The inner reality is of what experience was left within her from the relationship. Her challenge is whether she can meet this treasure with its share of pain, and draw out of it the essence which enriches her own being. That is the spiritual life of her husband.
The aliveness’ of her husband in that sense is also social, because many other people share memories of him. What arises in their own lives from such memories is the observable influence of the now dead person.
But the dead also touch us more mysteriously, as in the next example. Example: In a recent news programme on television, a man who survived a Japanese prisoner of war camp in Singapore had been given a photograph of children by a dying soldier he did not know.
The man had asked him to tell his family of his death, but did not give his name.
The photograph was kept for 40 odd years, the man still wanting to complete his promise but not knowing how. One night he dreamt he was told the man’s name. Enquiries soon found the family of the man, who had an identical photograph. See husband under family. ... A Guide to Dreams and Sleep Experiences
To think you have quit dram-drinking, or find that others have done so, shows that you will rise above present estate and rejoice in prosperity. ... Ten Thousand Dream Interpretation
If one is unwillingly drinking a bitter medicinal syrup in a dream, it means that he might suffer a light illness.
If he drinks apple juice or honey or myrtle drink or any other delicious drink in a dream, it means happiness for a rich person and bad news for a poor person. Drinkinga glass of apple juice in a dream means benefits drawn from a servant or an employee, a service offered by a powerful person, or it could mean a stressful life.
If one drinks something to cure an illness in a dream, it means recovering from that illness if it exists. Otherwise, it means that he might suffer from such an illness and take such a drink as a cure. Any constipating drink in a dream means stinginess, while taking a laxative in a dream means generosity.
A headache reliever or a pain killer means kindness or diplomacy and the same goes for any drink that cleanses the kidney. Beside that, drinks denote architecture, religious studies, addressing matters promptly or hiding secrets. Colorful drinks in a dream represent happiness, joy, festivities, celebrations and correcting one’s behavior. Fruit drinks in a dream may denote the fruit itself. Drinking rose water in a dream means lack of trust in someone’s promises. Drinking an unknown but fragrant drink in a dream means strengthening one’s certitude, loyalty or fulfilling one’s vow. Drinking a smelly or a spoiled drink and particularly in a golden cup or a silver cup in a dream means denying the true source of favors or becoming an apostate.
If one sees a deceased person handing him a sweet and a fragrant drink in a dream, it means guidance or admonition and it could mean that the deceased person dwells in paradise. Drinking with a regular cup in a dream represents the last drink. Drinking an unknown drink in a dream also represents the drink of the righteous and elect among God’s creation.
(Also see Cold water)... Islamic Dream Interpretation
If in company with someone of the opposite sex, or a group: taking in the pleasure or otherwise of the relationship or group. Sometimes connected with childhood emotional need See alcohol. ... A Guide to Dreams and Sleep Experiences
The colour of what is being drunk is also important (see Alcohol and Colours).
2- Drinking in a dream may indicate our need for comfort and sustenance. As a basic requirement for life, drinking symbolises the interplay between the inner need to sustain life and external availability of nourishment.
3- Spiritually there is a belief that the drinking of wine is, or symbolises, the imbibing of Divine life and power.... Ten Thousand Dream Dictionary
If the water is dirty or muddy, it is a bad sign, as also if it is warm or hot. But to Drink clear fresh water is a very good sign.
It is also fortunate to Drink milk. See MILK, WINE.... Mystic Dream Book
If the drink is satisfying, then you are content with the answers, energy, and substance you are receiving.
If the drink did not satisfy your thirst, then you are still on a quest to find the answers or energy you need to quench your thirst.... Strangest Dream Explanations
The colour of what is being drunk is also important.... Dream Meanings of Versatile
To dream that you are drinking alcohol, denotes that you are seeking either pleasure or escape.
To dream of drinking alcohol in excess, signifies feelings of insecurity and regrets. You worry that people will discover who you really are.... My Dream Interpretation
Water which is cloudy, dirty, warm, or hot predicts loss of money and/or status due to unfortunate circumstances; but a drink of clear cool or cold water is a very fortunate omen for anyone but particularly for students or those in academic life, as for such it augurs honor and achievement through knowledge.
To drink milk is also a happy omen of coming success.
Fizzy soft drinks such as Coca-Cola, etc.
signify exciting happenings ahead, and any very sweet, syrupy drink predicts a passionate love affair.
However, drinking from a bottle indicates an unsatisfactory romantic experience.
See also Wine, Brandy, Colors, Bar, etc.... The Complete Guide to Interpreting Your Dreams
If you do not, in the dream, accept the drink, make sure you do on the next occasion; or relive the dream, only this time taking the drink and swallowing it. In this way you may come to identify what it is that is being offered.... A Dictionary of Dream Symbols
If she dreams that she fails to drink clear water, though she uses her best efforts to do so, she will fail to enjoy some pleasure that is insinuatingly offered her. See Water. ... Ten Thousand Dream Interpretation
3. Beware of accidents caused by carelessness or alcoholic drinking (to drink liquor).
4. Celebrations in the ofﬁng (social alcoholic drinking).
5. Possible alcoholism, loss of reputation (drinking too much alcohol). ... New American Dream Dictionary
If one sees himself drinking cold refreshing water from the regular water tab in a dream, it means comfort and joy.
(Also see Cup; Drink; Mug)... Islamic Dream Interpretation
Depth Psychology: You have a severe craving! Is it desire or passion or addiction? Are you trying to satisfy physical needs or spiritual desires?... Dreamers Dictionary
If drunkenness is the theme, the dreamer is losing control of responsibilities and wishes to be relieved.
To see someone else drunk, the dreamer looks upon that person as an irresponsible dependent. Drinking water or milk in a dream is often the result of a bodily need, either thirst or hunger.... Psycho Dream Interpretation
If you are thirsty in your dream, it may be that you are thirsty as you sleep; if this doesn’t apply, a dream thirst suggests that you may be feeling emotionally parched in waking life, as water is a symbol of the emotions. Generally, if you are drinking something sweet, this may suggest a longing for more affection in waking life, whilst dreaming of a stronger drink may suggest a need for more energy or a stronger approach to a problem.... The Element Encyclopedia
A single glass indicates the need for a short vacation.
To break a glass means that you are going to have to suddenly change plans you have made.... Gypsy Dream Dictionary
The same applies if the water is not sweet. But it the water is brackish and muddy, it means he will suffer from some ailment or disease whose seriousness will depend on how brackish or muddy the water is.... Islamic Dream Interpretation
The dream context will help you with your interpretation, as will your waking-life relationship with alcohol.... Complete Dictionary of Dreams
To eat bacon means triumph over enemies.
If you are smoking or curing bacon, someone close to you will become ill.
Biscuit / Cookie: There will be great rejoicing.
Boiled or Roast Meat: You will tend to be melancholy and dwell a lot on the past.
Brandy: Indicative of living “high off the hog with little thought for tomorrow and little regard for your friends.
Bread: To smell bread means you will be given an opportunity to make some money.
A loaf of bread handed to you could mean a new child on the way.
To slice bread is to divide up your luck into small amounts.
To eat fresh bread is to enjoy good friendship.
To eat stale bread is to open yourself up to possible sickness.
Butter: You will have good fortune mixed with sadness. Wealth to come, but at a price.
Cabbage: To dream of eating cabbage means you will receive good luck.
To dream of cooking cabbage means you will go into debt.
Cake: Eating cake means good luck. Strangely, if a woman dreams she is eating wedding cake, it means she will have a period of bad luck.
To make and bake a cake means you will bring your own luck.
Capon: You have been deceived in your affections.
Champagne: Symbolizes money.
A bottle of champagne is the chance to make money.
To drink champagne is to receive money.
To toast a newly married couple with champagne is to be assured of success in business.
Cheese: Vexation; frustration, but final success.
Chocolate: Eating or drinking chocolate means that you will soon be going through an illness, though not a serious one.
Coffee: To drink or smell coffee is a sign of long life.
Corn: Corn on the cob indicates coming financial gain. Corn growing in a field means you will have a good and happy marriage. Popcorn means a sudden, unexpected windfall.
Cream: If you are drinking cream, you will receive an unexpected gift.
If you spill cream, you will have to pay an unexpected bill.
Eeels: Malicious enemies.
Egg: A wealth of family love.
Flour: To see flour, either packaged or at the mill, means it is a good time to invest, but don’t put all your money into one thing.
Ham: You will meet a very jolly person.
Honey: You are being falsely sweet to someone and it shows!
Jam / Jelly: To dream of putting up jam preserves means you will develop good friends among your neighbors.
Lettuce: To dream of lettuce is good, according to the Gypsies.
For a woman, it signifies a wonderful time to come with her lover(s).
For a man, it signifies the attention of a number of beautiful women.
Liquor / Liquers: You may do something you will very much regret afterwards.
Macaroni: A symbol of great distress.
Milk / Milking: To dream of drinking milk indicates you will be very lucky in love.
To dream of milking a cow means you will have to work at winning the person you desire, but you will eventually be successful.
Millet: A sign of poverty
Mustard: There will be a number of family quarrels.
Oysters: To dream that you are eating oysters is a very favorable sign, usually signifying a large family.
If you are married, your spouse will be very much in love with you and you will have several children; if you are not married, you soon will be and then will go on to have children.
Pancakes: Seeing, cooking, or eating pancakes means that some of the things you presently think of as curses in your life are going to turn out to be blessings.
Pastry: To be eating pastries means you will miss an important appointment. You could suffer illness at a most inconvenient time.
Rice: As with millet, a sign of poverty.
Salad: Various embarrassments.
Salmon: A sign of deceit.
To eat salmon means you will discover the deceiver.
Salt: You will be recognized for great wisdom.
Sausages: You will be accused of interfering in some one else’s love affair.
Soup: You will return to good health.
Vinegar: You will labor in vain for a while.
Wine: To dream that you are drinking wine is a good omen. It prognosticates health, wealth, long life, and happiness.
If you are in love, you will marry the person you adore.
If you are married, you will draw especially close to your spouse.... Gypsy Dream Dictionary
A woman is the intuitive, creative part of self. Whatever qualities, characteristics, and lessons that you associate with that person you may be learning about again. Pay attention.... The Dream Books Symbols
In some cases, dreams that focus on food and drink may arise out of nocturnal hunger or thirst but, more often than not, such dreams provide symbols that refer to other appetites; these could be, for example, our desire for spiritual, emotional and intellectual nourishment, or for sensory or sexual gratification. For Freud, food represented sexuality because he considered the mouth to be the primary erogenous zone. Most dream analysts, however, follow Jung’s lead and suggest that dream food represents the qualities you are taking in, or need to take in, to yourself for personal, emotional and spiritual development. In other words, the dream is trying to compensate for your feeling of being malnourished in some aspect of your waking life and it could be pointing to a physical, intellectual, spiritual or emotional source for this hunger.
Dreams of being thirsty, drinking or drunk, cooking, comfort eating or dining out, fasting or gorging can send you powerful messages about your current state of psychological well-being.
If a specific food was highlighted in your dream, this might also be significant; different types of food can mean different things. As always when interpreting dream images, it is important to examine what your personal associations with that food are first.... The Element Encyclopedia
If he mistreats and upbraids you for unfaithfulness, you will hold his regard and confidence, but other worries will ensue and you are warned to be more discreet in receiving attention from men.
If you see him dead, disappointment and sorrow will envelop you.
To see him pale and careworn, sickness will tax you heavily, as some of the family will linger in bed for a time.
To see him gay and handsome, your home will be filled with happiness and bright prospects will be yours.
If he is sick, you will be mistreated by him and he will be unfaithful.
To dream that he is in love with another woman, he will soon tire of his present surroundings and seek pleasure elsewhere.
To be in love with another woman’s husband in your dreams, denotes that you are not happily married, or that you are not happy unmarried, but the chances for happiness are doubtful.
For an unmarried woman to dream that she has a husband, denotes that she is wanting in the graces which men most admire.
To see your husband depart from you, and as he recedes from you he grows larger, inharmonious surroundings will prevent immediate congeniality.
If disagreeable conclusions are avoided, harmony will be reinstated.
For a woman to dream she sees her husband in a compromising position with an unsuspected party, denotes she will have trouble through the indiscretion of friends.
If she dreams that he is killed while with another woman, and a scandal ensues, she will be in danger of separating from her husband or losing property. Unfavorable conditions follow this dream, though the evil is often exaggerated. ... Ten Thousand Dream Interpretation
Example: ‘My recurring dream—some disaster is happening. I try to contact the police or my husband. Can never contact either. I try ringing 999 again and again and can feel terror, and sometimes dreadful anger or complete panic. I cry, I scream and shout and never get through! Recently I have stopped trying to contact my husband. I managed once to reach him but he said he was too busy and I would have to deal with it myself. I woke in a furious temper with him and kicked him while he was still asleep’ (Mrs GS).
The husband here depicts Mrs S’s feelings of not being able to get through’ to her man. This is a common female dream theme, possibly arising from the husband not daring to express emotion or meet his panner with his own feelings.
For Mrs S this is an emergency. Although the dream dramatises it, there is still real frustration, anger, and a break in marital communications.
Example: There were three of us. My husband, a male friend and 1, all nding small white enamel bikes. My husband proceeded slowly, first, with his back to us. Then my friend followed. Suddenly my friend ahead of me turned and gazed fully at me. He gave a glonous smile which lit up the whole of his face. I felt a great sense of well-being surge through me’ (Joan B).
The triangle: the example shows typical flow of feeling towards another male.
The other male here depicts
Joan’s desire to be attractive to other men. This is a danger signal unless one fully acknowledges ihe impulse.
Example: ‘I was with my husband and our three children. About 2 or 3 yards to our right stood my husband’s first wife —she died about a year before I first met him. I remember feeling she no longer minded me being with him, so I put my arms around him from the back, and felt more secure and comfortable with him’ (Mrs NS).
The first wife: the dreamer is now feeling easier about her husband’s first relationship.
The first wife represents her sense of competing for her husband’s affections, even though his ‘first woman’ was dead.
Example: ‘My dead husband came into my bedroom and got into bed with me to make love to me. I was not afraid. But owing to his sexual appetites during my married life with him I was horrified, and resisted him with all my might. On waking I felt weak and exhausted.
The last time he came to me I responded to him and he never came back again. This happened three times.
The last time I don’t think it was a dream. I was not asleep. I think it was his ghost’ (GL). Dead husband: in any experience of an apparently psychic nature, we must always remember the unconscious is a great dramatist. It can create the drama of a dream in moments. In doing so it makes our inner feelings into apparently real people and objects outside us. While asleep we lightly dismiss this amazing process as a dream’. When it happens while our eyes are open or we are near waking, for some reason we call it a ghost or psychic event. Yet the dream process is obviously capable of creating total body sensations, emotions, full visual impressions, vocalisation—what else is a dream? On the other hand, the dream process is not dealing in pointless imaginations. Many women tend to believe they have little sexual drive, so it is easier for GL to see her drive in the form of her husband. But of course, her husband may also depict how she felt about sex in connection with his ‘sexual appetites’.
It is a general rule, however, that our dream process will dramatise into a past life, or a psychic’ experience, emotions linked with trauma or sexual drive which we find difficult to meet in the present.
Example: ‘I dreamt many times I lost my husband, such as not being able to find the car park where he was waiting, and seeing him go off in the distance. I wake in a panic to find him next to me in bed. These dreams persisted, and then he died quite suddenly. He was perfectly healthy at the time of the dreams and I wonder if it was a premonition of me really losing him’ (Mrs AD). Cannot find husband: many middle aged women dream of ‘losing’ their husband while out with him, perhaps shopping, or walking in a town somewhere. Sometimes the dream ponrays him actually killed. Mrs AD wonders if her dream was a premonition.
It is more likely a form of practising the loss, so it does not come as such a shock.
The greatest shocks occur when we have never even considered the event—such as a young child losing its mother, an event it has never practised, not even in fantasy, so has no inbuilt shock absorbers. As most of us know, men tend to die before women, and this information is in the mind of middle-aged married women. Mrs AD may have unconsciously observed slight changes in her husband’s body and behaviour, and therefore readied herself.
Other woman’s husband: one’s own husband, feelings about that man, desire for a non-committed relationship with less responsibility. ... A Guide to Dreams and Sleep Experiences
To dream of having a husband when you are single points to relationships in general. Most girls look for their father’s personality or traits while choosing their life partners. Those traits often represent the male side of a girl’s character. All this is represented when a girl dreams of a husband with all those traits she admires or dreads.... Dream Symbols and Analysis
If you are an unmarried man dreaming of being a husband, then you are processing your aspirations/hopes/fears of one day being married.
If you are a married man, then this dream can represent your assimilation of the pressure of being the breadwinner.
If you are a married woman, this can also be your assimilation of your idealized husband versus the day to day reality, expectations and demands that you have of your actual husband.
If you are an unmarried woman, this dream may be your hope, fantasy, or “dream” of what your future husband will be.... Strangest Dream Explanations
If you dream of your real-life husband, your dream represents your emotions around this relationship. Look up other symbols, or feelings you had, in the dream for further meaning.... My Dream Interpretation
If doubts about validity and intimacy are not properly resolved in her waking life, they will appear in dreams about the loss or death of her husband. They may also be projected onto other women’s husbands in dreams.
If your husband goes missing in your dream or you can’t find him while out with him, your unconscious may be referring to the well-known statistic that most men die before women.
If your husband is dead in both your dream and in your waking life, this refers to the memories you have shared with him.
If another woman’s husband appears, this may refer to a desire for a relationship outside your current one.
If you are having sex with your husband in your dream, this can be a wonderful indicator of how you are feeling about your sexual and emotional relationship with him.
If your first husband appears in your dreams, this represents nostalgia for the past, or more obliquely, competition for your current husband. See also Gay relationships in RELATIONSHIPS.... The Element Encyclopedia
If her doubts and fears about validity are not properly expressed, they will surface in dreams about the loss, or death, of her husband. Such fears may also be projected onto other women’s husbands, almost as though her own husband is too close to her.... Dream Meanings of Versatile
To dream that you are buying drinking straws indicates that you are trying to buy your way into a situation or relationship.... My Dream Interpretation
The same dream could mean that either she will benefit from the good qualities of her husband or he will benefit from her good qualities.... Islamic Dream Interpretation